Connections

The holidays always bring an abundance of emotions.  The festive lights, decorations, and cheerful demeanor of most people you encounter this time of year is refreshing.  Smiles on children's faces and the anticipation of spending time with the ones we love is palpable.  The joyful sounds of seasonal music and holiday stories warm the heart.  No matter where you are, or whom may cross your path, spirits are lifted and positive greetings are exchanged.  It is the one time of year we allow ourselves to become fully immersed in the enthusiasm and joyfulness of season.

Spending many hours, days, weeks, or months at the hospital/cancer center can put a damper on holiday cheer.  Most patients are able to escape the sadness and despair being sick during the holidays can easily bring.  I will be the first to admit that I have fallen victim to the woes poor health brings to such a festive time of year.  I become depressed and overwhelmed with guilt.  I cannot attend holiday parties, I am unable to travel home to spend time with my family, and it is a challenge to purchase gifts for loved ones because of the many financial struggles living with a serious illness brings.  I wish I could buy amazing gifts for all the remarkable people in my life.  Luckily, with the help of fundraisers I am able to share gifts and delightful encounters with "my kids" and many other patients at the hospital.

Over the years I have realized and embraced the true meaning of the holidays.  This time of the years is not about parties, gifts, and other materialistic novelties.  The holidays present us with the opportunity to connect with those around us.  Holiday cheer is universal.  Our religious backgrounds may differ the way we celebrate, but it does not change the fact that this is the most magical time of the year.  November and December allow us time to slow down.  Instead of keeping up with the daily grind of life, we can take time off to celebrate.  We can reconnect with family and friends, but we can also connect with complete strangers.  Our hearts are lighter, our eyes sparkle brighter, and generosity is much easier to come by.  Connecting to one another during the holidays comes effortlessly.  It can be exchanged through something as simple as a smile.  Many of us find it easier to bridge gaps and connect when there is so much love in the air.  Sending cards, exchanging gifts, swapping festive stories, attending holiday gatherings, and going "home" again brings us all closer together.

No matter what situation you many be in, what hardships you may be going through, the holidays provide a bit of a reprieve.  The chance to step back from day-to-day life and be grateful for what is truly meaningful in life.  What is life without happiness and love?  Don't allow yourself to become consumed by the issues in which you are not passionate about.  Remember to keep the lines of communication and connection open.  I am positive it will contribute to a richer and more peaceful life.  Isn't that what we are all searching for?  I know my life is much more blissful because of the deep connections I have made over the years.  I may never be rich or famous.  I may have to deal with intense health issues for the rest of my days, but I can live with that.  I cannot live without the company of good people.  I would rather have a vast network of friends, family, acquaintances, and those I have yet to meet than live an empty existence.  Share you life with others and the reward will be the greatest gift ever received.